I am a female and have always had guy friends, and now there are a few girls that want to hang out with me. They are comfortable with each other to where they can lay on each other, hug, wrestle, etc. It all makes me feel uncomfortable because I know how to interact with guys and not women. I have never even had a sleepover with women. How do I go about making them feel comfortable around me and hanging out with them without seeing so awkward? I really would like some friends that are female.How do girls hang out with girls that are used to hanging with guys?
just be yourself and go with the flow for now, until u get acclimated to feminine bonds, and gain a sense of comfort. i usually have A LOT of guy friends, mainly cuz i like drag racing and xbox 360s and PS3s lol....so i guess i get so accustomed to just being normal with them that with girls it seems so...affectionate? but if they want to hang out with u, then they like ur personality, and it's all abt being open-minded and accepting, they shall be so in return to you :)How do girls hang out with girls that are used to hanging with guys?
if you want to get more in touch with your girly side, just explain to them when you all hanging out that your not used to being with girls, but chilling with them is a lot of fun.
If you want to learn about new people or or learn about yourself, its going to take moving outside of your comfort zone, and it seems like your already on the road to do this.
#1) be honest with your new girlfriends about your feelings
#2) be open to interacting with them in their comfort zone
when they are playing/wrestling/touching each other you can kind of ease your own stress and others, by maybe joking about it a little bit.
(i.e. they are being touchy feely, you smack someone one the *** and say ';bad girl'; that way your being touchy feely too, and they aren't worried about you being uncomfortable because you can joke about it)
just act like who you are, be understanding and outgoing, have fun, and don't worry about it! If they're good friends they'll accept you as you are.
I don't recommend grossing them out too much though, farting, burping, talking about sports that they have no idea what it's about. Find some similarities between you guys, and you'll have something to grow on. Hell, maybe you all like to try different foods, go to an arabian restaurant and bond over a lamb kabob (or w/e food they have).
Don't make it harder than it is, friendship is about enjoying each other's company, not forcing yourself to have same sex friends.
I was the same way, and it was weird to have more girl friends than guy friends for me. But they may have the same interests as you do, and it will get easier as your friendship with them progresses in the future. Have a pajama party and talk about hot guys!!! That is a great subject you all can feel good about!!! I have three best girl friends and we all talk about things not alot talk about, our favorite things to do with our boyfriends or husbands. lol. But we are over the age of 21!!!
my answer is 2 be urself n dont over do nun, meanin..if u try 2 hard 2 be 1 of the girls it will make u feel awkward....bein urself is the best :D.......n do they kno u have lots of guys friends? Maybe u should consult to the 1's u wanna hang out wit n come up wit a group thing 2 make yall friendship more betta :D
just talk 2 them. maybe about things u wouldnt be able to talk with guys about. dont just randomly jump on them cuz thats kinda wierd. but u can mess around. just dont think about it. read magazines. do girl stufff. act natural. i jump all over my friends. but only when im messin around, and thats just my personality :) so just b cool about it!
it sounds like you are doing fine, dont worry if you arent comfortable with the hugging,hangin and wrestling on eachother thing..some ppl just arent ';touchy feely'; its no biggie. my best friend in highschool was like that and no one thought anything of it.. we just knew she wasnt a touchy girl.
dont worry about it. just be yourself and enjoy having girl time with them :)
just talk to them and just be yourself. you can go to a movie or the mall or just chill at each others house . you can;t expect to be as comfortable as they are with each other ( laying on each other etc..) right away it takes time .
sounds like ur really into the boys... but its important to have friends that are girls too for example when ur boyfriend breaks up with u u dont wanna cry alone u need a girlfriend to help u through things
and u sound scarred and afraid of girls... r u sure ur not a lesbian?
you just be yourself
its not a big deal and you can talk about more girly things like hot guys :) and other girls (which i hate)
i have a lot of friends that are guys and girls (i like the guys better though)
same here. find girls that are like you. not girly girls. find boyish girls or girls that hang out with guys too. dont do what the first guy said. you cant change who are because its not really who you are.
See what they do,act like them,get to know them better and try to push the boys aside for later,like the Sr. Prom.
I have the same problem.
I dislike hanging out with girls, because I feel like they're dramatic and insecure and predictable, so I prefer guys.
I'm waiting to see what other people say..
Just be bit more gentle. Or just be yourself
the girliness will come out inside youu
haha
well first be yourself if they want to talk all night listen and if there interested in what you say or how you act then this may be a achievment you know just try to see who they are on the inside
take you shirt off as an icebreaker! you know what captain falcon always say... Show Me Your Boobs!
how old are you?
act like you would want someone to act towards you
talk to them about guys
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