How should I feel about my girl hanging out alone with another guy?

My girlfriend went to go watch a movie alone with a guy she knew from before, (and had nothing but good things to say about him) who was coming up from the states. (she was yelled at by her parents for it, and she had a busy schedule, she had to ';jump through a lot of hoops'; just to meet up with him since she usually has a busy schedule I can't even see her very much, or for very long.)


I told her that it hurts, and I was uncomfortable to see her going out with another guy alone. When I asked to come along, or for her to bring some friends along with her, she said since they don't know each other well enough, it would be awkward for them. She knows how I feel about it, but she went anyways.





I asked her a while back if it was O.K. if I went to hang out with a girl alone, and she said that she doesn't want me to. So out of respect for her, I never hung out with a girl alone.





So now that you have the back story I have a few questions about this.





How should I deal with this? Does that mean that she cares more about the guy's feelings (feeling awkward) than mines? How should I feel about it?





Right now, I'm feeling like I don't matter. Its not O.K. for me to hang out with a girl alone, but for some reason its O.K. for her?





I asked my friends (male and female) and I don't know what to do or how to feel about it. So I came here to get a different perspective.





Thanks in advance for the reply guys and gals =)How should I feel about my girl hanging out alone with another guy?
well honestly u have a right 2 be angry.


u cant hang out with girls but she can hang out with guys lmao


that is for one disrespect to u on her part and two stupid and selfish of her to think only about her feeling


and not include yours.


me and my bf agreed not 2 hang out with those of the opposite sex and we hold eachother 2 it


i can understand y u feel so unappreciated and unimportant


she cant make time 4 u but can make time for sum guy she ';BARELY'; knos??


this seems quiet funny 2 me....


ok put things 2gether...


she barley knos this guy....


she makes time for him but not u...


goes to the movies with him(and not u)....


doesnt wanna bring anyone along...


what do u figure is going on??How should I feel about my girl hanging out alone with another guy?
Even if she's not cheating on you (she definitely is, though), the fact that she controls who you can see but doesn't accept your feelings and concerns when she goes out with a guy she ';barely knows'; - alone - is not a good sign in general. She's too controlling. Dump her.
Wow this is a really long question. I would be pissed! I really would! Just tell her, i dont feel comfortable w/ you hanging out with him alone. i want to come along. or maybe invite them for a movie @ your place
that sucks, i doubt anything will happen, but that is quite hypocritical... even though we all tend to be hypocritical sometimes. just talk to her about how you really are nervous about it(even though i know you already did, maybe ask her how it went?)
thats just wrong of her because she can do it but you cant???whats that...it seems like she cares more about that dude,or guy than you cause she seems to be careless about your feelings towards that.you need to talk to her serious ,face to face.
She can do it but u can't is a bad sign. If a person knows that they aren't doing anything wrong then why would she think that you are? Something smells fishy. Call up your friend(girl) and go out with her anyways.I would.
OMG! thats so mean! tell her that how you truly feel and ask for an explanation on why u cant hang out with another girl alone? If she says something like cause then i'll feel awkward then say i do too but u do it anyways. GOOD LUCK! :)
Just talk to her IN PERSON about it so she can see your reactions to everything and how it does worry you and stuff.


Reason with her about that.
its not right for her to go with another guy i think that u should ask her not to c him again alone if she gets mad then shes not for u get over her and move on!
Sounds like she got some. You should be worried. Ask her for the truth and then you will just have to trust her
she shouldn't be acting like that when she has a boy friend.
hmm well i kinda do suspect tat she likes the boy a wee bit after going thru all those things for him but yoo should just go on with life and if she acts differently or uncomfortable round yoo something is up. don't be too protective tho we all have parents for that haha can yoo answer this question pretty please ? http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
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Okay so my bro was dating this one chick much like yours. One day I shiit you not I am at the mall and I see his girl on the mouth.





As Biz Markie says... please listen to the story that I say dont talk to a girl who says she just has a friend... Dump Her... There are plenty of fish in the sea, but remember once you catch a fish you should always let it go!








Think about it what good can come from this?
Guys and girls are a little different, but you probably already know that.


Don't assume she is going to do something, you should just leave it alone, and just check with her if anything happened, if you have a bad feeling that something did, then something probably did.





As for guys, it scary cause we dont know what your going to do with this girl, you might see her alone cause you want to do the McNasty with her. And well, thats why its hard to let a guy be alone with another girl (unless its his girlfriend)
It doesn't sound like this girl cares too much about your feelings. You voiced your concerns with her being with another guy and she just ignored you. Basically, she set a double standard because she is allowed to be with a member of the opposite sex alone but you aren't. Before you break up with her, try to get things straight and make sure this wasn't a big misunderstanding. If your talk does not go well with her and you still don't feel like she understand your feelings, it is most likely time to break up with her.
Honestly I would leave her. It does seem like she cares about his feelings more than yours I would never do that to my man. Like I said i'd be pissed. It's normal to feel like you don't matter cuz that's the way she potrayed it to you and that's f%$#^d up. It's not ok for her and if you don't stand up for yourself than she will run all over you. I truly wish you the best and it sounds like you deserve better. if you're not ready to leave her yet than go hang out with that girl alone and see ho she reacts. Good luck
I know a friend who does this all the time... like exactly your story... and i feel so bad for her bf... You need to either talk to one on one and explain how you don't understand how its fair that she can hang out with a guy alone but you can't (with a girl)... and you two should decide if its ok for you both to hang out with other people alone... or if you shouldn't... if you can't.... well... sorry... i really have no idea... im still dealing with my friend and this same problem...:/ hope everythings ok!
Your girlfriend is BS`N you !


If she can go out with a guy, you can go out with a girl. She cannot control you, and obviously if she doesn`t let you go out with a girl she does not trust you. - My honest opinion ? You need a new gf. Dontcha think that`s going overboard ? I mean, shes being hypocritical.





I think you need to tell her straight up, if you can go hang with guy`s, I can hang with girl`s.


Be straight up with her. Trust me. :)





good luck .
i think that she really wanted to see her friend that she hasn't saw or talked to in a while.Which doesnt mean she doesn't care about you. But from your story it kinds of seem like she would be mad if you went out with someone else. But all you guys need to do is trust each-other. and make sure that nothing happens between your friend or her friend. Then everything should be okay. So i think you should tell her again like tell her with more feeling the next time so she can see threw it and say what if you were in my shoes and i was going with another girl then that will probably make her think different about the whole thing.
I mean...honestly...shes got some feelings for him thats obvious. Another thing, you said she barely knows this guy shes going out with? haha sounds like a date to me. Dude, just call her and outa no where say that you two need a break. Then date a couple girls, because most girls wouldn't do that and I hate to be rude but thats the first sign of cheating. Hopefully shes not the type of girl to put out on the first date..or she arleady did.
I don't think I'd be cool with it, mainly because she said you can't hang out with other girls. My boyfriend doesn't really have any close friends that are girls, but I know that he and his best friend's girlfriend will talk from time to time, but they've also all been friends for years. I've hung out with other guys but I had my friend with me. I think you should tell her that it's disrespectful to you for her to hang out with a guy by herself when you can't hang out with a girl by yourself, and it's also disrespectful to you when she doesn't take your feelings into consideration. Tell her you feel like you've kind of been thrown to the side and that maybe you want to get to know this guy too and if you do, then it won't be akward for him to be around you.
ahhhh sounds like a double standard issue





tell her you feel face to face let her know that her going out of her way to see this other guy really hurt you since y'all don't see each other that often often tell her that by shutting down your suggestions for her to bring along friends made you feel some type of way....also bring up the fact that you respected her when she didn't want you to hang out with another girl.....i mean it's 2o1o everybody has FRIENDS of the opposite sex...if she doesn't want you to hang out with another female then she shouldn't hang out with another male it's all about respect plain and simple if you speak to her about it and she doesn't seem to see it that way and continues to hang out with other guys then it just means she doesn't respect you and you shouldn't be in a relationship with someone who doesn't respect you
You don't trust her?


Hmm.. sad. Its a friend from the states, of course she'll want to hang out with him without you guys bothering.


Are you saying she's easy?


I doubt she'll give in because she has you.


Just have a great time with her before you go.. text and make jokes... and she'll be reminded how much of a great guy you are again.. since probably right now you already pissed her off.





Just trust her really.. she probably likes it a bit that you are jealous.. but don't be a giant douche about it. Just tell her how you feel, but you'll allow it because you trust her.





She'll feel too guilty to do anything bad.
It would have been one thing if she DID let you go hang out alone with another girl, but it appears that she has some double standards. If I were you, I would just go hang out with another girl alone regardless, and see how it makes her feel. If she wants to break up, then F her. You shouldn't be in a relationship with a girl with double standards like that. But it may make her understand how she made you feel, which could be a good thing. Good luck. I'm a guy by the way.