My friend wants me to go out with this girl, how do I handle such a situation?

NO ONE knows that I'm gay because I'm too scared to tell anyone.





My friend has a girlfriend. He asked me if I had one, I said ';no';. He was like ';any girl you're interested in?';. I said ';right now, no';. He was like ';ok, what girl did you like?';. I said ';um...';. Then he started telling me the girls he liked and how pretty there were. He was like ';there has to be at least one girl you liked';. I was like ';I can't think...right now';.





Then he brought up one of my friends. He was like ';that you girl hang out with seems like she likes you';. He said ';you and her are always talking and she connected with you more than anyone else';. Then I was like ';really?';. He was like ';yeah, you should ask her out!';. Then he kept trying to get me to ask her out. When I didn't he was like ';oh, you're scared';. He told me that he was going to tell her that I like her.





This is horrible, and to make the situation worst, now I am questioning my sexuality. I'm not sure if I'm gay or bi. I don't like girls ';sexually';. I wouldn't want to kiss a girl on the lips but I wouldn't mind having sex or oral sex just to get the pleasure. In other words, I'm attracted to guys mentally, physically, and emotionally. With girls, I don't really like them that much. I like them only as friends.





I'm not sure how he'd act if he found out I were gay. I don't think he'd react too positively though. And please don't say ';he's not a true friend'; because he has done a lot more for me than any other friend I've ever had!





Me and him are so close that he called me his ';brother'; once.My friend wants me to go out with this girl, how do I handle such a situation?
Talk to him about your sexuality.





When you say he calls people a 'fag', that doesn't necessarily mean that he is homophobic.





I am bisexual but prob a tiny bit more gay than bi, but I am in the closet and I always use the phrase 'that's gay', or 'your a fag'. It's just part of my culture though where I live. Even my best friend who knows about my sexuality always says 'you fag', or 'that's gay' to me and it's actually got nothing to with sexuality (besides I'm pretty sure he is gay too).





So what I am saying is, he might say derogatory things about gays or his attitude might not be 100% gay pride ftw, but that does not mean he won't accept you.





He is your brother after all ;) (just like my best friend)My friend wants me to go out with this girl, how do I handle such a situation?
If he is so close to you, you would be able to come out to him and he would accept you for it





I'm exactly like you, I'm not really physically attracted to girls, but I won't mind having sex with a girl for the pleasure ...
well if hes that close why don't u just tell him??


answer my ?:http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;鈥?/a>
you said dont say hes not a true friend


but if hes a real true friend you would come out to him and he would be ok with it
im not ******* reading all of that, my advice, just say no and stop bein a puss and come on out
First off, if you are attracted to guys mentally, physically, and emotionally then you are gay, stop questioning. If you still have trouble labeling yourself as ';gay'; then the problem lies in accepting your sexuality. Accept yourself, until you do no one else can even begin to try. This friend is very close to you, almost a brother, and lying to him must be killing you, I know it would me. You said he's done a lot for you, don't you feel indebted to repay him with honesty? He very may well surprise you, and even if he freaks, at least you won't wonder what he would do if he found out. And he may come around given time. Its a big shock, if he freaks, give him some space... When I came out I was genuinely surprised by the kindness nearly everyone displayed. I know it'll suck when you lose a friend or 2, but their are so many people out there who can and will accept as you are, no secrets. Those friends are the ones who will stand by no matter what comes your way.





Now to the immediate issue, you need to tell your guy friend that the girl who he is trying to get you to ask out is more like a sister. Asking her out would be like asking him out, as he is like a brother to you.


He will most likely respond in 1 of 2 ways:





1. ';Dude, thats totally not the same thing! I'm a guy and you're not gay!';, possibly followed by ';are you?'; at which time you are able to come out without a word if you feel like it, just look at the ground and then meekly glance up at him. To maintain your integrity and closet space the only way out is a redirect question' ';What are you serious?';, which should diffuse the situation.


2. ';I guess I can see that, don't want to date your family... but what a nice ***';, or other observation of that ilk. At which time you change the subject, or explain that you're gay.





These are general responses, obviously, but his response will most likely fall into 1 of them.





I hope things work out for the best, if i can help any more, you have but to ask.
DONT GO OUT WITH HER IF U THINK THATS HOW 2 GET HIM OF UR BACK. BECAUSE MOST GIRLS CAN SPOT OUT A GAY GUY. [NOT TRING TO B RUDE] SHE CONNECTS WITH YOU BECAUSE YOU ARE LIKE A FRIEND TO HER. LIKE YOU KNOW...THOSE 'GAY' MEN THAT HAVE GIRLFRIENDS AND HANG OUT AT THE MALL AND ALL THAT. SHE KNOWS BUT SHE ALSO KNOWS YOURE KEEPING IT A SECRET...SO SHES DOING THE SAME THING.....YOU SHOULD STOP BEING FRIENDS WITH HIM BECAUSE HE SEEMS TO B THAT JERK THAT ALWAYS JUDGES PEOPLE. IF HE FINDS OUT THAT YOU ARE, HE WONT CARE THAT YOU BOTH USED TO BE FRIENDS...ALL HE THINKS IS 'I DONT WANT TO BE FRIENDS WITH THAT ';FAG'; OR HELL START TRYING TO GET WITH ME'....
It could be tough to come out to people, especially in school. I did that earlier this school year, and told everyone that I'm bisexual, which is the honest truth. I think that when guys kind of push girls onto other guys to try to get them to date, it's a little silly even if the guy is straight. I understand that you don't want to ruin your friendship, but honestly, the longer you wait to come out, the harder its going to be on you. If you stay in the closet for the rest of your school ';career';, then people will automatically just assume that you're straight, and you'll have to go through situations like this. If you were just out and open, you wouldn't have to deal with things like that, but trust me, its way easier to talk about coming out then it is to actually do it...Just do it gradually. Maybe give a little hints and try to find out info about what your friends think about gay people. You'd be surprised by how many people are actually accepting and open-minded about it. Once you do that, start asking things like ';Would you still like me if I was gay';, etc. Take it slow. But really, its your choice if you want to come out. I went through the whole ';Well, straight people don't have to come out'; phase, and i regret that. I don't regret coming out though. Its a lot better to be open and maybe get a stupid insult here and there than to be closeted and to have to go through awkward situations like that...





And another thing, a lot of times when a person first comes out, people don't speak to them for a while, and its not because they hate them, its just because they're trying to deal with the new info you presented to them. Just thought I'd put that there...